I’ve been thinking a lot about the modern crisis we have in relationships. Why is it that half of all marriages end in divorce, and probably another 25% are barely getting by? I know from inside sources that some of the great relationship gurus of our time are even struggling in their relationships with their spouses. What does it say that the people we look to for answers cannot seem to get it right in their own lives?
While I’m not typically a therapist who focuses on pathology first, sometimes I think it is absolutely warranted. Sometimes to solve a problem, you cannot just look at and encourage the positive, especially when there is so much rampant dysfunction. The conclusion I’ve come to is that we are a deeply wounded culture, and for the most part people are either in denial or completely unaware of their emotional wounds.
What do I mean when I say we are wounded? Well, I think the biggest wound a child can suffer is a parent’s inability to give the child the experience that they feel what their child is feeling. The saying “I feel your pain” sums it up very well. It’s what most of us never got, and desperately need as adults. What happens when a parent is incapable of holding a child’s anxiety, rage, or even hatred with compassion? The child learns that her difficult or vulnerable feelings are not ok. In fact, when a parent shames or ignores a child’s feelings, the message is that this part of them is unacceptable. This is the breeding ground for low self-esteem. All children really want is to be admired, loved and appreciated. They are phenomenal learners, and figure out before they even have the capacity of language that certain behaviors get them love, and other feelings or attitudes trigger rejection or even worse.
The downside of being good learners is that as children we become strategic in order to gain the love we need. Whole parts of us become walled off and we learn to give our parents what they want, rather than being real with what we are really thinking and feeling. This behavior is survival-based, but at a certain point, it will work against you when you begin to seek your own relationships. You cannot be in relationship if you don’t have access to your own feelings. This is the narcissistic dilemma. If your parents were incapable of acknowledging, accepting and mirroring your feelings back to you, then you never develop the capacity to relate to yourself, much less to another human being. An emotional fusion takes place where the other’s feelings are experienced like an assault on your character and goodness. This is a very vulnerable place to be, because you are at the whim of other peoples’ moods and perceptions. This is not a grounded or safe place to be, because you are so easily knocked off balance by external circumstances.
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When it comes to the most best-known and
beautiful cities of the Europe, Paris comes first in the list. It is currently the most populated city
in France with a population of about 2,200,000 people. Paris is also considered one of the main cultural and business hubs and Paris is regarded as one of the global cities of the Europe. Paris has
a lot of influence in politics, fashion, media, art, and entertainment. In addition, Paris is also a leading business district with a revenue of about US$731.3 billion in
2007 and accounting for more than a quarter of France’s gross domestic product(GDP). Paris is one of the famous tourist destinations where there are about 45 million tourists (60% of them are foreign) visit Paris every
year. There are many establishments and landmarks that make Paris the ultimate destination of the Europe.
Eiffel Tower
Eiffel tower is the first thing which comes to anyone’s mind when they refer to Paris. Eiffel tower is the global icon which is situated in Paris where everyone around the globe knows. The
Eiffel tower was built in 1887 as the entrace arch for the 1889 world’s fair held in Paris. It was named after Gustave Eiffel who was the engineer of the construction project.
Moreover, the Eiffel tower is the greatest building in Paris and the world’s most visited paid monument.
Thence, a visit to this historical turning point is a must to anyone who visits Paris.
The Louvre
The Louvre, the greatest museum in France and the world’s most visited museum, is also a must see for a tourist. This museum
alone houses some of the most valuable and priceless pieces of arts and sculptures in the universe. There are about 35,000 pieces of art and and 380,000 objects in total in
the museum. Among its most prized possessions include the paintings, Mona Lisa and Madona of the rocks by Italian artist Leonardo Da Vinci and sculptures such as the
Dying slave by Michelangelo. In addition to the European arts and culture symbols, Louvre also houses many other arts such as
Egyptian, Greek and Roman, and Islamic. This museum is much famous because of its vast collection of masterpieces from impressionist painters
including Monet, Degas and Renoir.
More about Paris
Apart from the mentioned
attractions of the city of Paris there are many other places such as Palace of Versailles (former palace of French kings), Château Villette, Notre Dame de Paris
(Cathedral of Notre Dame) which is 12th century Gothic cathedral and the Saint Dennis Basilica which is also a Gothic cathedral where the French monarchs were buried. Almost all these buildings are famous for their unique architecture. If some one is looking forward to a different type of leasure, then they can simply go on a cruise down the Seine river.
It should be retrieved that Paris is also offer more modern forms of entertainment locations such as
the Disneyland Paris, many modern restaurants and night entertainment venues. Therefore, Paris could be considered an ideal tourist destination that offers both traditional and
modern forms of entertainment to anyone who visits there.
