Many people seem to think that marriage counseling is a last resort when your marriage is crippled beyond repair. However, the wise couple will seek marriage counseling as soon as they come to the realization that their marriage is facing a problem that neither of them have the experience to solve.
Because of their abiding love for each other, they are willing to do whatever it takes to shore up the area of their marriage that was affected by erosion.
Even though both spouses know that marriage counseling is an important step, actually feeling comfortable with the counseling is a whole different story.
It’s often more difficult for men to seek outside help for their relationships. They hate not being able to figure something out on their own. Men, by nature, are trained to be independent and self-sufficient. They would rather learn from doing than from discussing. Therefore, it is more difficult for men to see a therapist.
So if the idea of having a male therapist makes a big difference to him, this would be good time to give in to his request.
For men who are uncomfortable with the thought of a one-on-one session, many therapists say group therapy is a good starting point. Sitting down in a group setting–with six to ten other individuals–can address feelings of isolation and improve their interpersonal skills.
Men in our culture typically have more fear of intimacy and are uncomfortable when it comes to revealing their emotions.
By helping people share their concerns and fears, groups can ease men past these barriers to problem solving. Therapy groups with a narrow focus can be especially appealing to men.
Remember, do whatever it takes to make it as easy as possible to seek counseling.
Your efforts will be well rewarded and you will realize that your journey through counseling not only helped resolve your initial concern, but your marriage relationship has broadened and grown to newer heights.
The great day has come and gone, and you are now happily married. You now want to showcase your silk bouquet as a memory of the wonderful occasion.
A good display will help to really show off your wedding, and will also help to make sure the bouquet stays in tip-top condition.
There are a few things you should think about when displaying your bouquet. In
particular, you must be very careful about displaying your bouquet next to a
window. But I’ll tell you more about that later…
Anyway, there are 3 ways you can display your bouquet: in a display cabinet; on a
shelf; or on a table.
Displaying In A Glass Display Cabinet
The ideal way to display your silk bouquet is in a glass display cabinet. This works
really well with a picture of your wedding behind the bouquet, so that your flowers
have a backdrop for other people to admire them in their full extent.
Displaying On A Shelf
Another place to display your bouquet is on a shelf. Try and use a high shelf, so that
the bouquet is out of the way – you don’t want people knocking it over! A couple of
small wedding photo’s either side of the bouquet will look great, and will really draw
the eye to the display.
Displaying On A Table
If you have a posy, then you can display it in a vase, on top of a table. Try and use a
table out of the way (A corner table, or dining table maybe), so that the posy doesn’t
get in the way of your everyday routine. If you place blue and white stones at the
bottom of the vase, it will give the impression that the flowers are sitting in water. It
looks spectacular, and is definitely worth a try.
Whichever way you to decide to display your bouquet, there are 4 simple rules you
should pay attention to:
1) Put the silk bouquet in a place where it will draw attention. A well displayed
bouquet makes a great talking point, and will remind you of the happy day every
time you see it.
2) Make sure the bouquet is out of the way. You don’t want to be knocking it over,
or pushing it aside all the time. Perhaps you’ll be careful, but what about your
children, or your pets?
3) KISS – Keep It Simple Stupid. Many people get carried away when setting up their
bouquet display, and add too many photographs and other wedding items. This
makes the display look cluttered, and the bouquet stops being a focal point. You
want the display to be VERY simple, so that eye is drawn to the the bouquet.
4) Be sure to avoid direct sunlight hitting the bouquet. Direct sunlight is very bad
for silk bouquets, and will make them fade and lose their color. Ideally you want
natural room light. If you have your bouquet anywhere near a window, make sure
the sunlight doesn’t directly hit it!
Peta D’Silva has been making silk bouquets for over 14 years. She is the webmaster
of http://www.visionsofsilk.com, a website featuring a catalog of bouquets that can
be bought, as well as easy-to-understand articles about creating your own silk
bouquet.
