Everything in life, in order to be a success, requires knowledge and education to some extent. We read, study and take courses on several subjects that we as human beings require in order to live the life we choose to live. If we wish to improve on a certain area of life such as career and education we simply enroll in classes or find alternative methods that will provide us with the information we are seeking. However, we were not taught to educate ourselves on relationships-the most essential factor to living in this world. We must be able to relate to others in order to create an environment that we feel is desirable and supportive to us. Here I am providing 7 steps to having a healthy relationship. Whether you are in a current relationship or seeking one, these are key ingredients to creating and improving the relationship you desire.
1. Know What You Want
Knowing what you want is the foundation to having that which you desire. Have you ever felt like you were going around in circles not really getting anywhere? That is what happens if you do not have a destination in mind. When choosing a relationship you must think of all the things that make a relationship perfect for you. Not what is perfect for anybody else or what you think others want you to have. It must fit you and your life.
2. Being Your Authentic Self
From early on in our lives we have had to learn to play different roles in different situations. Relationships are one of them. How many times have you felt that you had to be or act a certain way in order for a relationship to be what you thought it was supposed to be? We have forgotten how to be ourselves. It is our past experiences and beliefs from the past that keep us from being who we truly are. As individuals in relationships it is our sole responsibility to see all the opportunities there are to heal ourselves and release the past so that we can continue to unfold and become authentic beings.
3. Communication
Saying what we desire, saying what we feel, expressing our deepest fears, sharing our joys and successes are all pieces to communication in relationship. Telling our loved ones what we need and lovingly working through any disagreements and differences are more than essential in a relationship. How can two people come together if they do not know what is going on in their loved one’s world? In order to be crystal clear in relationships we must learn and create a system of communication based on both partner’s needs that then becomes the middle ground where miracles take place.
4. Acceptance
Take me as I am. We love someone because of who they are. In relationships it is up to us to love our partner for who they are and where they are in life. Their lessons are not our lessons to learn. Our only responsibility is to love and accept them as they are. When we try to change someone to make them fit our mold not only are we placing them in a box we are dissociating ourselves from the relationship and ignoring our own fears and needs. Relationships are about accepting and growing at our own pace and together holding each other’s hands along the journey together.
5. Trust
If there is no trust there is no foundation. Next to Love, trust is what makes or breaks a relationship. In order to trust, we must stay completely true to ourselves and to our moral and spiritual beliefs. When we follow what we know in our hearts to be loving then we can be sure that we are giving our partner all the reason to trust us. In order to know what is true we must accept the fact that relationships are where we have the opportunities to grow, become better individuals and free ourselves from all things that are hurtful. Trusting your partner and giving trust to your partner is the greatest gift that will carry a relationship through anything.
6. Play
We have taken everything in life so seriously that we have forgotten what it means to play. We have forgotten what it feels like to let go and play like a child again. Being child-like means letting all your worries, fears, doubts and insecurities go. It means to laugh and have a good time and do things that you normally wouldn’t do. Notice a child’ s behavior. Notice their innocence. Notice their playfulness. It is that same energy that when brought into a relationship opens doors to unlimited possibilities and tons of fun.
7. Self-Love
If you do not love yourself how can you truly love another? You cannot serve from an empty tray. We have learned to believe that everyone else comes first and we come last. We have learned to believe many stories and lies that keep us stuck in the same rut. As you go through the processes of relationships you learn to discover what works and doesn’t work for you. When we can fully accept ourselves and our experiences for what they are and have been then you can really begin to love someone deeply and completely. When you choose to take full responsibility for your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health then you can truly experience blissful love.
Marilyn Rodriguez is a Master Level Rapid Eye Practitioner, Life and Relationship Coach and an Ordained Minister. She has helped many clients overcome, release and heal their past and achieve their goals. She currently resides in Huntsville, AL. For a FREE conditional consult email Marilyn at retblink@yahoo.com or call her directly at 256-797-1500.
The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.
Lets read; 2Pe 1:20. “Knowing this first, that no prophecy of the scripture is of any private interpretation.” Interpretating Revelations is as with other Books of the Bible, comes from inspiration. We all have views that must be expressed with the utmost respect to others.
The White Horse.
Rev 6:2 And I saw, and behold a white horse: and he that sat on him had a bow; and a crown was given unto him: and he went forth conquering, and to conquer. (Zec_6:3); Compare Christ in (Rev_19:11) whom the Beast imitates. The Beast of the white horse is the Anti-Christ, we see this because of , 1. The color of the horse imitates the Horse that “The Christ” Rides to Battle at Armageddon. The anti-christ must convince many that he is the Christ, in doing so, he will immatate many of the aspects of Christ but with none of the ultimate authority. His authority is given to Him by God in limited amounts. [Rev 19:13 And he was clothed with a vesture dipped in blood: and his name is called The Word of God. Rev 19:16 And he hath on his vesture and on his thigh a name written, KING OF KINGS, AND LORD OF LORDS.] and 2. We see the rider carrying a “BOW”, Christ has never been described as having a bow but always a sword. and 3. We see that a crown was given to him.[by who? God] The horse in scripture represents power. Crowns represent, power and authority. There are separations of each horse by its color. Remember in the original, Hebrew and Greek, the color may vary in representation. The main thing to remember is what the horse represents.
The Red Horse.
Rev 6:4 And there went out another horse that was red: and power was given to him that sat thereon to take peace from the earth, and that they should kill one another: and there was given unto him a great sword. We see that a great sword was given to him meaning that death and bloodshed will be great.[Rev_13:10; Exo_9:16, Exo_9:17; Isa_37:26, Isa_37:27; Eze_29:18-20; Dan_2:37, Dan_2:38, Dan_5:19; Joh_19:11] here we see the color, Red, Blood and death, carnage, & discord. We see the similarity between the rider of the red horse here and the woman of Revelations 17. Death in the interpretation of the Horsemen is of great significance. We are given a look into the future of man. Mans lack of desire to serve God and to repent of His sins. Same as with the woman in Rev 17:15 And he saith unto me, The waters which thou sawest, where the whore sitteth, are peoples, and multitudes, and nations, and tongues. In Rev 9:6 , And in those days shall men seek death, and shall not find it; and shall desire to die, and death shall flee from them. We can see that the events that are taking place with the Horsemen are separate from the dealings with man in Rev 9:6. Now there are differences of opinion on who the people, of the Horsemen, are, who are dieing. Some may say the poor that have rejected Christ and others may say the religious infrastructure, the leadership of the one world religion. I believe that it will be a combination of both, rich and poor, influential and the unknown. This is how the Anti-Christ, of the White Horse gains power over all nations of the earth. remember that John was told to write; {Schofield ref.} 1. Things past, “the things thou hast seen,” (Revelation 1:1-20). 2. Things present, “the things which are,” i.e. things then existing–obviously the churches. The temple had been destroyed, the Jews dispersed: the testimony of God had been committed to the Churches (1Ti_3:15). Accordingly we have seven messages to seven representative churches, (Revelation 2:1 - 3:22). It is noteworthy that the church is not mentioned in chapters 5-18. 3. Things future, “things which shall be hereafter,” lit. “after these,” i.e. after the church period ends, Revelation 4:1 - 22:21.
The Black Horse.
Rev 6:5 And when he had opened the third seal, I heard the third beast say, Come and see. And I beheld, and lo a black horse; and he that sat on him had a pair of balances in his hand. Rev 6:6 And I heard a voice in the midst of the four beasts say, A measure of wheat for a penny, and three measures of barley for a penny; and see thou hurt not the oil and the wine. The color of the horse: “black ” This would denote distress, famine and calamity. Mat 24:7 For nation shall rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom: and there shall be famines, and pestilences, and earthquakes, in divers places. Mat 24:8 All these are the beginning of sorrows. As an example I have inserted Eze 4:16, Moreover he said unto me, Son of man, behold, I will break the staff of bread in Jerusalem: and they shall eat bread by weight, and with care; and they shall drink water by measure, and with astonishment: Balances are and have been used to measure many different types of material, here it is food. Signifying that there is coming a time of great dispare for the people on the food supply. We see this today around the world as food becomes a commodity of great value. Wheat has been used as a bartering tool for oil and money. Eze 4:17 That they may want bread and water, and be astonied one with another, and consume away for their iniquity. If you noticed with the White and Red Horse, the series of events take place one right after another. War and confusion, confrontation, death and conquest. Now with what we all know about warfare, we see that with every war there comes refugees with the lack of food and water. The White Horse and His rider went forth conquering, and to conquer, war. Food in scripture is used many times to win battles. The Red Horse and his rider were given power to take peace from the earth, and that they should kill one another: revolt and revolution, assignations and murder, genocide. So as you can see, the listing of the horses and colors, which are symbols, coincides and lines up perfectly with each other. The Last Color is Pale.
The Pale Horse.
Rev 6:8 And I looked, and behold a pale horse: and his name that sat on him was Death, and Hell followed with him. And power was given unto them over the fourth part of the earth, to kill with sword, and with hunger, and with death, and with the beasts of the earth. [Death: Rev_20:13, Rev_20:14; Isa_25:8; Hos_13:14; Hab_2:5; 1Co_15:55] Death is often compared to a pale color or ashen color. There is no crown represented here for death is without any specific symbol. Many causes are associated with it so no symbol is needed. Again we see that Death was given power, by who? God. We see this in perspective when we read; Rev 9:6-11; And in those days shall men seek death, and shall not find it; and shall desire to die, and death shall flee from them. And the shapes of the locusts were like unto horses prepared unto battle; and on their heads were as it were crowns like gold, and their faces were as the faces of men. And they had hair as the hair of women, and their teeth were as the teeth of lions. And they had breastplates, as it were breastplates of iron; and the sound of their wings was as the sound of chariots of many horses running to battle. And they had tails like unto scorpions, and there were stings in their tails: and their power was to hurt men five months. And they had a king over them, which is the angel of the bottomless pit, whose name in the Hebrew tongue is Abaddon, but in the Greek tongue hath his name Apollyon. For any death to accure there must be permission from God, as we have seen. The Pale horse riders, Death and Hell, are the symbols of the people affected by this horse. First there will be death, the taking of life then Hell the destination of the ungodly and unrighteous. The cause for death being given power; Rev 9:20-21; And the rest of the men which were not killed by these plagues yet repented not of the works of their hands, that they should not worship devils, and idols of gold, and silver, and brass, and stone, and of wood: which neither can see, nor hear, nor walk: Neither repented they of their murders, nor of their sorceries, nor of their fornication, nor of their thefts. ars
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